KC Newborn Photographer | A Letter from my Sister

So, usually my blogs are about my clients. You come here and read a little about each session and look at some sweet babies. This post is a bit different. This post isn’t about a photography session. This one doesn’t have any photos of tiny babies curled up, all fingers and toes and chubby cheeks. No, there isn’t any of that.

This post is about wishing for those things.

This post is about searching for those things.

This post is a letter from my sister.

KC Newborn Photographer

Dear Expectant Mother,

I’ve been thinking a lot about you lately and really wanted to write you, but was a little scared. I wanted to make sure I said all the right things, didn’t leave anything out and most importantly I just wanted this to be perfect. After starting this letter over about 7 times I decided I’m just going to speak to you from my heart. I’m probably going to leave something out and it’s probably not going to be perfect but here it goes.

My name is Kaitlin and my husband is Damon. I have a beautiful stepdaughter named Isa. This year has brought so much joy and a little sorrow to our family. It was this year that we decided to grow our family and find that missing piece.

As a young girl I always knew I wanted to be a mom. I always imagined having several children. I grew up with three sisters and just knew I wanted the same for my family.

As I grew older I was faced with some medical issues that led to my eventual infertility. There came a point when I realized that conceiving wasn’t going to be easy but it was possible. I tried to keep that in mind and stayed positive for the most part. As time went on my condition worsened and I was given no choice but to have a complete hysterectomy at age 24. It was devastating, but necessary for my health and I knew that. But I still grieved at losing the opportunity of carrying a baby on my own. What a special thing to be able to do.

Adoption was going to be my chance at motherhood. I always knew it was there and was very open to it, but it wasn’t until several months ago that my husband and I started the process. We filed all the necessary paperwork and completed our home visits. We were chosen by our birth mom and instantly grew to love her. She was giving us such a tremendous gift. We knew our lives would never be the same and we were so excited for what laid ahead for us in this journey. We prepared the nursery and bought little clothes. We installed the car seat and packed a hospital bag. We were ready to meet our baby.

The day finally came when our son was born. I was able to be in the room and see him come into this world. I held him in my arms and said his name. It was one of the happiest moments in my life. What happened days later broke my heart. Our birth mother changed her mind. The baby boy that was ours just days before wasn’t anymore. We would drive home with an empty car seat and an empty heart.

I felt devastated at the time, but I do know that for everything there is a purpose. And I truly believe the reason I was not that baby’s mommy is because I was waiting for you. God has other things in mind for us. He wanted me to write this letter. He wanted you to read it.

Damon and I live in the Kansas City area in a great subdivision filled with lots of kids. Both of our families live within 15 minutes of us so family gatherings happen often. We are lucky enough to be embraced by a large family on both sides that includes grandparents, aunts, uncles and lots of cousins.

Damon owns his own business so it allows him to get to work from home if needed and always allows him to be available to attend Isa activities. I also work from home as a hairstylist, so it will be easy for me to be a “stay at home mom,” yet still get to help provide for our growing family.

Isa is at an age where she really wants to be a big sister. When we told her we had decided to start this process she was instantly filled with joy. We cannot wait to see how much love she has to give this child, as this is something she wants just the same as we do.

Our family talks about you daily. We can’t wait for you to read this letter. We hope you are reading it right now.

Damon and I know that we want to add to our family, we want to have a baby that is ours… a baby we won’t have to give back. God had a different plan for us and we are both ready to embrace that and start living that plan. Although we love Isa more than anything, our hearts have plenty of love for another child.

You would be giving us such a gift, such a blessing and an absolute miracle by helping us add to our family and completing that missing piece of the puzzle. It brings tears to my eyes when I think about you helping me to become a mommy. I am so grateful to you.

If you are interested in meeting with us or even just talking please don’t hesitate! We have been waiting so long to hear from you!

Sincerely,

Damon & Kaitlin

Please feel free to use the contact tab to send Damon and Kaitlin messages of support and love. And if you are that missing piece to their family’s puzzle please don’t hesitate to reach out.

They are waiting to hear from you.

To visit Damon and Kaitlin’s Go Fund Me please click here.

9 Comments

veronica on June 14, 2015 at 7:39 pm

Hi there, I am so sorry to hear that you had to have a hysterectomy at such a young age. I have four beautiful children and my heart aches for you. Are you still pursuing adoption or looking for a surrogate?

Carrie Martinette on June 14, 2015 at 8:54 pm

Your letter moved me. As I get older I realize how precious my children and grandchildren are to me. At one time I wanted to be a surrogate but just never did. I wish I could it now. My oldest daughter has one son but can’t have anymore. I would carry one for her. It’s an important thing to be a mother and to mother a child I do know though that there are kids in kc that need you as their parents. I live in kc. There are some really stupid and uncaring people that don’t value their children and they are taken away. I think adoption would be good for you . Good luck God bless you both. I know you will find your children out there.

Kaitlin on June 15, 2015 at 12:46 am

Thank you so much for the kind words! It’s greatly appreciated! ?
Rachel on June 16, 2015 at 11:37 am

I completely agree that there is a reason things have worked out as they have for your family, if you havent looked into fostering to adopt I would recommend that you consider that option. We are adoptive parents to two beautiful girls and are now fostering 2 of the most precious babies in which we are unsure about what is to come of the case but we do know that we love them more than anyone can imagine and wouldn’t trade any of the time we have gotten to spend w them. There is definitely a need for loving parents as yourself! God Bless

Keri on June 16, 2015 at 11:48 am

We will finish up our 9 week training to become foster parents and we have hope that we will not only foster a child, but will foster to adopt! It is free to take a child in that needs hugs, kisses, attention and simple things we take for granted like – security, a roof, a warm bed with an actual blanket, food on a regular basis and so much more. It doesn’t cost anything and there are plenty of babies 🙂 We chose this path after 4+ years of trying and eventually too much heartache to continue to bear as we hoped for a 2nd child. I will eventually end up as an advocate for the Foster Care System and the thousand + kids that are waiting for a someone to love them everyday. I hope you find what you are looking for and consider the foster care path. Good luck and much love.

Becki Maya on June 16, 2015 at 12:06 pm

Have you thought about adopting from foster care? Go to adoptuskids.org to view the kids. Good luck! 🙂

Karen Dahlke on June 16, 2015 at 9:04 pm

So sorry for your difficult journey to parenthood. Have you considered surrogacy as an option? I’m currently carrying for another family, but I’d be happy to explain the different options available. I’m in Kansas City as well. Best wishes on whatever pathway parenthood finds you.

Melinda on June 17, 2015 at 7:46 pm

I would be happy to discuss being a surrogate mother for you. I was wondering if you had considered it when I saw the last post.

Christina on June 23, 2015 at 5:50 pm

I have been considering for a while about becoming a surrogate as I have a child of my own. It’s an amazing feeling having your own flesh and blood call you ‘mom’. I want nothing more than for you to have that experience. If you would like to speak, I am open to meeting with you or just emailing.

veronica on June 14, 2015 at 7:39 pm

Hi there, I am so sorry to hear that you had to have a hysterectomy at such a young age. I have four beautiful children and my heart aches for you. Are you still pursuing adoption or looking for a surrogate?
Carrie Martinette on June 14, 2015 at 8:54 pm

Your letter moved me. As I get older I realize how precious my children and grandchildren are to me. At one time I wanted to be a surrogate but just never did. I wish I could it now. My oldest daughter has one son but can’t have anymore. I would carry one for her. It’s an important thing to be a mother and to mother a child I do know though that there are kids in kc that need you as their parents. I live in kc. There are some really stupid and uncaring people that don’t value their children and they are taken away. I think adoption would be good for you . Good luck God bless you both. I know you will find your children out there.
- Kaitlin on June 15, 2015 at 12:46 am
  
  Thank you so much for the kind words! It’s greatly appreciated! ?
- Rachel on June 16, 2015 at 11:37 am
  
  I completely agree that there is a reason things have worked out as they have for your family, if you havent looked into fostering to adopt I would recommend that you consider that option. We are adoptive parents to two beautiful girls and are now fostering 2 of the most precious babies in which we are unsure about what is to come of the case but we do know that we love them more than anyone can imagine and wouldn’t trade any of the time we have gotten to spend w them. There is definitely a need for loving parents as yourself! God Bless
Keri on June 16, 2015 at 11:48 am

We will finish up our 9 week training to become foster parents and we have hope that we will not only foster a child, but will foster to adopt! It is free to take a child in that needs hugs, kisses, attention and simple things we take for granted like – security, a roof, a warm bed with an actual blanket, food on a regular basis and so much more. It doesn’t cost anything and there are plenty of babies 🙂 We chose this path after 4+ years of trying and eventually too much heartache to continue to bear as we hoped for a 2nd child. I will eventually end up as an advocate for the Foster Care System and the thousand + kids that are waiting for a someone to love them everyday. I hope you find what you are looking for and consider the foster care path. Good luck and much love.
Becki Maya on June 16, 2015 at 12:06 pm

Have you thought about adopting from foster care? Go to adoptuskids.org to view the kids. Good luck! 🙂
Karen Dahlke on June 16, 2015 at 9:04 pm

So sorry for your difficult journey to parenthood. Have you considered surrogacy as an option? I’m currently carrying for another family, but I’d be happy to explain the different options available. I’m in Kansas City as well. Best wishes on whatever pathway parenthood finds you.
- Melinda on June 17, 2015 at 7:46 pm
  
  I would be happy to discuss being a surrogate mother for you. I was wondering if you had considered it when I saw the last post.
Christina on June 23, 2015 at 5:50 pm

I have been considering for a while about becoming a surrogate as I have a child of my own. It’s an amazing feeling having your own flesh and blood call you ‘mom’. I want nothing more than for you to have that experience. If you would like to speak, I am open to meeting with you or just emailing.